Why Women Fake Orgasms: Creating a More Honest, Pleasurable Connection

Muses, let’s get honest.

We live in a world where women are running companies, households, marathons — but in the bedroom? We’re still faking it. Why?

Somewhere along the line, we were taught that his pleasure mattered more. That we should protect egos instead of expressing desires. That our bodies were too complex, too much, or just not the priority – and, muses, that’s a lie and we’re done living in that narrative.

The orgasm gap is real. Statistically, heterosexual men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? Just 65%. That’s a 30% pleasure deficit — and that’s not just a stat, it’s a story. A story of silence, people-pleasing, and putting ourselves last.

This isn’t about shame. It’s not about blame. It’s about honesty — and connection. It’s about learning to speak our pleasure fluently, without apology. About calling in our partners, not calling them out. And more than anything? It’s about coming home to our own bodies — and refusing to fake anything ever again.


So Muses, why do we fake it?

We fake it because it’s quicker, easier and we don’t want to disappoint. We’ve internalised the message that our pleasure is extra credit — not the main event.

We fake it because we’ve been conditioned to be good girls, not honest women. But faking it costs us more than we think. It costs us intimacy. Connection. Trust. 
It keeps us performing instead of experiencing. It trains our partners to miss the mark, and it disconnects us from our own bodies.

Muses, it’s time to stop performing and start participating.


Muses, how do we bridge the gap?

With courage. With communication. And with clarity. Here’s how to start that conversation — not with criticism, but with curiosity:

  1. Pick your moment — Choose a calm, connected time when you’re both open.
  2. Get curious together — Explore. Discover. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Ask questions. Make it playful, not pressured.
  3. Let go of the goal — It’s not just about climax. It’s about connection. Don’t chase orgasms — chase presence. The rest follows.
  4. Prioritise your own pleasure — You are not a supporting role in someone else’s experience. You are the main event.


And, if you’ve been faking it?

You’re not alone. Not even close. This isn’t about guilt — it’s about growth. Every time you speak up, ask for what you want, and honour your body, you are breaking generational patterns of silence. That’s power, Muse.

You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be honest.

The Amorecco Edit